It’s not always easy to recognize a narcissist before marriage or within the first few years. They are usually very charming and charismatic, which can make them seem like the perfect partner. However, over time their true colors begin to show and they often become manipulative, controlling, and abusive. If you find yourself in a marriage with a narcissist, it’s important to understand what you’re dealing with and how to protect yourself.
Who is a narcissist?
A narcissist is someone who has an inflated sense of self-importance and a deep need for admiration. Although they’re often charming and charismatic, they can be very persuasive. Narcissists are often very confident and have a strong sense of entitlement. They expect others to treat them well and tend to become angry or disappointed when they don’t. Narcissists often have a lack of empathy and can also be manipulative and exploitative.
Being married to a narcissist
If you’re married to a narcissist, you may find yourself feeling like you’re walking on eggshells. You may feel like you can never do anything right and that your partner is always critical of you. Narcissists often gaslight their partners, which means they manipulate them into doubting their own memories or perceptions. This can make it very difficult to leave a narcissistic relationship. Narcissists may also be emotionally and/or physically abusive.
How should you protect yourself?
If you’re in a relationship with a narcissist, it’s important to be aware of their behaviors and to set boundaries. It’s also important to have a support system in place, whether that’s friends or family members who you can talk to about what you’re going through. You may also want to consider seeking counseling or therapy to help you deal with the emotional abuse. If you’re in an abusive relationship, it’s important to get help and to understand that you’re not alone.
To divorce such a person, you’ll need to be prepared for a long and difficult battle. Narcissists often make the process as difficult as possible and may try to manipulate or bully their way through it. It’s important to have a solid support system in place and to be prepared for the worst.
If you’re married to a narcissist, you may find yourself feeling worthless, unimportant, or invisible. However, understand that you’re not alone and there is help available. If you find yourself in an abusive relationship, don’t hesitate to reach out for help and find a safe and healthy way of ending your relationship.